When It Is Appropriate to Accuse of Neglect or Abuse

When deciding if it is appropriate to accuse someone of neglect or abuse of children you  need to follow guidelines that are appropriate and not rely on guessing someones life.

The Guidelines

1) Friendship and Knowledge

A close friendship and knowledge is required of knowing what is happening in the persons home. Judging without this knowledge can lead to many issues and many problems. Most decent parents do not discuss on the internet when children leave the house, where they are going or who is visiting the house. Privacy is important on the internet in regards to safety for your family. 

Friendship and love should lead an individual to be concerned for the offspring of the children involved. If you love someone and love their offspring because you love the parent and are concerned of neglect, that is an entirely different matter and should be discussed privately. Accusing someone without asking questions such as why the neglect could be happening is not appropriate; such as life issues, being unhappy, seeking something they are missing, disease or illness, or something else. Ask appropriate questions based on your love and friendship of the individual and the children involved.

2) Proof

You need proof they are abusing their children, basing a judgment by what you are viewing from people you do not know or have a relationship with is not the proper method. As I mentioned up above, the child or children might not be home and out with friends of parents, people from the church, in a daycare, napping or doing other activities. 


Contacting  Childrens Aid or Childrens services or even discussing that option needs to be your last resort, along with the proof without a shadow of a doubt that neglect or abuse is happening. Many risks are involved when a child is removed from the home and placed in foster care. You simply google Foster Care Risks, and you can obtain many articles. Hospital visits increase in foster care.  

Protecting Your Family Online

I have had many questions on what my child is doing, where she is and other related comments about my child. As a protective parent, and one that has received death threats for my calling to God and other worrying factors, one should not be answering questions of this nature online.

What to watch for?

1) Where is your child? 

They might try to figure out how to grab your kid or have it set up.

2) What is your child doing right now?

They might be trying to figure out if the child is out of your sight to grab them or have it set up to do.Depending on the situation if you have endured online abuse like I have they might be trying to figure out a way to abuse your children.

3) Constantly speaking of your child and what activities are happening at your home. 

Speaking about what you or your child is doing daily in an obsessional format signals a problem, especially if abuse is happening with other methods. Do not share this openly. They could be child predators scoping for further information. It depends on what other activity is happening on their accounts. Such as abuse and other underlining factors.


I have many people from my church that also visit me several times a week here at the house. I have friends that give me many breaks a week so I can spend some time online. I do not feel I need to explain what or how I spend my time online when I am terminally ill.

My daughter naps daily, and I have daycare as well a few times a week as a break.